Creating a legacy
What exactly do we want to leave behind to our children? Abraham and Lot both made a choice, but their choices led them to different results. Whatever you and your spouse talk about at home will determine your priority, and your priority will determine your value, which will set the culture of your family. We (as an Asian family) often want to provide a better education to our children, because we believe that with a good education will guarantee a good job and a good job will bring us riches, happiness, and fortune. Therefore all the emphasis is on the children's education, which leads to jamming into a better school district and the real estate market increase. Middle-class parents would have to work two jobs to pay the mortgage for a "better" location and parents end up sacrificing their time with their children. It's normal around the world, wherever there is an Asian community (Chinese and Korean mostly), you'd see a ridiculous real estate market increase.
Abraham made a choice after his nephew Lot. Lot chose a pasture that was green"er" and plentiful. Man, I bet the real estate near Jordan River where Lot picked was "up and coming"!! It sounded quite promising, Lol... Though Abraham chose a barren land or something that's less pleasing to the eyes, he knew that as long as he's hanging onto the promises of God, God will bless him.
Then he built an altar to the Lord although he was discouraged! That's what made Abraham different from Lot. Living not by sight, but by faith.
And the Lord said to Abram, after Lot had separated from him: “Lift your eyes now and look from the place where you are—northward, southward, eastward, and westward; for all the land which you see I give to you and your descendants forever. I will make your descendants as the dust of the earth; so that if a man could number the dust of the earth, then your descendants also could be numbered. Arise, walk in the land through its length and its width, for I give it to you.” Then Abram moved his tent, and went and welt by the terebinth trees of Mamre, which are in Hebron, and built an altar there to the Lord. (Genesis 13:14-18)
It's not what we can give to our children, but who we will give them. Our job is to lead them to their Maker, Yehovah, the Creator of Heaven and earth. Abraham built an altar at Hebron, where many years later his son Isaac and grandson Jacob lived by the altar Abraham built. That's what we should leave behind - good God-stories and testimonies of God's promises and faithfulness to our children and their children. Not just earthly riches or materialistic possessions.
Lately, my oldest daughter has been asking me about my personal stories of God. I'd show her some objects (or God-signs) that God has proved Himself to me. Stories and God-signs that would inspire her to pursue God herself; I'd surely hope both my daughters will personally encounter God themselves (certainly we are praying for them). However, it's not just their parents' faith; it should be their own faith. Unless we model it for them, how would they encounter His goodness? We talk about our ceiling is our children's floor, right?
Abraham made a choice out of his trust in the Lord. Lot made a choice out of his trust in the world. I want to create a legacy or a path through which my children and their children can come back to the heart of the Father God.